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Week Thirteen- Apparently a list no matter what I do with formatting.

  1. Ridiculously short post here. Mainly because l’m kind of crazy busy in both mind and life with things to do before we go away next Monday. Camping. In Queensland. 
  2. Many of the things I am busy with are, at the very least, Pintrest inspired so there will be a huge stonking post full of things. But not while I’m still doing them.
  3. Here are just a couple of little things- plus I’ve added some photos to the previous post.

    This morning I made bub some pants to go with her good dress. I’d used this pin earlier in the week with polar fleece to make some PJ pants to take away and it was so quick and easy. I forgot I was using very light Indian cotton. It took a little longer than expected. 

    Look very closely on the bottom right- shirring.

    My favourite part? Spontaneous shirring of the cuffs (which I learnt from this pin) worked beautifully.

    I’ve also been coming across a lot of these

     pins of late. I adore them. I’m in love with language so finding new words is always a wondrous thing.

    Here are a few of my particular favourites.


    Because I am

    Wish me luck in my sewing/couriering/shopping/driving/train riding week.

    I may post while away- I aim to. If not there will be make up posts upon my return.  Meanwhile look for me in the interstice.

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    Week Eleven. Remembering.

    Right now I can’t for the life of me remember what I was going to write about… 

    This week has gone so quickly.

    We made Anzacs (as we always do) and danced in the kitchen to Missy Higgins 

    I adore the painting on the right but photo for recognitions sake.

    (Bub especially loves this song, and now sings the chorus – well part of it. Calls it the Anzac Song.  I especially love this  song- being a frustrated artist)

    Truth be told I love all of her music and have a particular soft spot for this . Its especially good after arguments with people you love.

    Which happens when they misplace things when you moved house in Febuary and still have no idea where they are. (Yes, I am looking at you, Big M) So that ate up some week.

    Then there was this STUPID AND IDIOTIC “postal survey” (plebiscite makes more sense- thought up by plebs. Anyone else do Latin at school? Anyone?) announced in Australia. It has made me rather upset. The amazing and brilliant Tim Minchin sums it up best here and quite simply I believe this :-

    Anyway. There was that.

     I also did a spot of sewing- we’re going to my cousins wedding in September up in QLD and I’m s-l-o-w-l-y making my way through a pages long to do list (mostly pin inspired).

    At the top is “Make E’s Wedding Dress” and yes, we all had a good laugh at that one.

    I wanted to make her something that reminded her of a Sari as she often asks to wear one (her passion for Bollywood undimmed)

    After looking at so, so, so many patterns for dresses for babies and toddlers. I found this one. For a reversible wrap top. 

     (Actually first I found this 

    but I really didn’t want to pay for a pattern and the handy image search corner thing found the top for me).

    So I printed out the pattern, then traced it onto baking paper and made it longer and cut it out of some beautiful but very thin Indian cotton I had bought on eBay and some equally beautiful broderie anglais. Also from eBay.

    After thinking about it overnight I realised two things. 1. That they would not work as a lining for each other and 2. That I’d cut out one too few front prices and that would have looked very wrong. (One shoulder wrap dress on toddler. Not good)

    So the next day I cut out another front piece from the cotton and some lining from Calico and tried to pin it all together. Discovery of the week- pins are like hair elastics- they vanish.

    Anyway- I was being careful and taking my time so, yes, the next day I sewed it all together following the instructions – which are actually quite simplre I’d imagine especially so for a slightly more experienced seamstress.

    I ended up with a dress which looked okay on the Indian cotton side and lovely on the calico. I hung it up overnight as apparently this helps with hemming.

    That night I thought again and realised my mistakes. 

    The next day I fixed them (sew all edges except the bottom hem first, then seam the sides with the fabric you like least outwards).

    I even used a decorative stitch.

    Tried it on Bub, hemmed it. Done. One wedding dress that I don’t have a finished picture of. Although here is the next best thing- pre hemming and adding of ties:-

     I will have a “proper” picture though- when I finish the pants to go underneath it and make the front panel end in a curve not a point and I’ll put it here 

    And now, of course, I’ve remembered what we did do that was new….but we haven’t finished it yet, so that will have to wait for next week.

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    Week 10 Toddler Pinafore 

    Keeping it simple this week. I’ve just spent a few days finishing a Uni assignment on a particularly difficult topic plus there has been loads going on at home, so, here is something I did outside of my head.

    It’s part of an idea I had for what to dress bub in overnight while we are camping as she WILL NOT stay under the covers and I have no idea what the weather will be on the East Coast in September.

    I wanted it to be layers and comfortable and warm without screaming “I’m pyjamas” and something she can keep wearing as she gets bigger.

    Quite a bit of thought and research went into this over the last few weeks.

    I started trying to find out the best kind of camp blanket for warmth. It’s woollen, of course. But I have not the time nor the money to knit her a completely woollen outfit. Plus the itch factor of most wool fabrics ruled that out.

    Next on the list was fleece (or as I know it polar fleece).

    This was kind of perfect.

    I think polar fleece is made out if recycled plastic- so that’s a bonus (And I’m not ready to be disabused of that notion yet, thank you, I can’t afford to be right now)

     In addition part of a bundle of second hand clothes we received recently was a fleece Kathmandu jacket for bub in a beautiful teal green.

    So with that in mind as a top layer, and a simple cheap cotton onesie and the bottom layer, the middle two are going to be this pinafore and a pair of loose pants.

    I ordered the fabric in a Lincraft sale two weeks ago and got beautiful microfleece for $4 a meter. 

    I was going to wait for all the fabric to arrive but the navy blue was sitting there all washed and ready and I really needed to do something other than uni work so here we are.

    I based it roughly on this pin, which is a so simple, pretty toddler/little girls dress.

    Click for link

    But my printer wouldn’t print the pattern so I traced one of her old pinafores on to baking paper 

    *NB making an actual pattern is highly recommend – the finished product is so much better plus I felt like I was doing it ‘properly’

    I hope you can see the pencil- one line was for front, the other for the back

    So, I traced and cut and pinned and even stay stay stitched, then zig zagged over the top so it all looked right.

    I also hemmed around the neck and arm holes and did a bit of notched cutting (look at fourth image from last to see what i mean)(Oh yes, I have all the lingo down now)

    I then used the buttonhole attachment on my sewing machine (which I adore). Every other buttonhole I’ve done has been by hand. Pah! say I to buttonholes taking an hour. Mine took about twenty minutes all up. 

    In addition I worked out this rather cool way of keeping buttons handy while you are sewing them on – 

    so they don’t wander off and disappear in your sewing table-which I’m sure looks just like mine…doesnt it?

    Anyway there you go. Part one of bub sleep system done.

    Not that she’d try it on for photos, so you’ll have to make do with regulation “on a white surface” ones.

    Parts I’m most proud of? The strap ends and buttons. Also the idea of the drawstring so it won’t ride up. I’m going to put them in the pant cuffs too. That way they can be loose comfy daywear or snuggly nightwear that keeps out cold air.

    There will definately be more pictures when I do the pants. 

    In the meantime I’m just proud I made something properly- I even changed the bobbin thread.

    NB Please excuse the slightly formal academic language- think I’m still in assignment mode.

    Just quickly, because I took about forty five minuites to get right-ish, I also wore my first Sari this week thanks to this pin. What do you think?

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    Week 9 The Monsters in our Heads

    I want to curl up and watch “2 Penttutikal” but this blog keeps snapping at the back of my mind like my childhood Australian terrier and our postman (yup- my dog used to actually chase (And bite) the postman)

    I have (amongst other things) PTSD. That is one of the few boxes I’ve been put in that made sense. 

    Big M my its-so-bloody-complicated-and-not-for-this-post is my Carer.

    If we didn’t have kids, people might see things differently.

    If I had physical therapy, was in a wheel chair or had a cast, people might see things differently.

    If I was vomiting from radiation or even just had a run of nasty virus'(knock on all wooden objects within sight) people might see things differently –less likely in this medicate and get on with it world but still…

    If every day Big M got up and went to someone else’s house dressed in a snazzy polo shirt with a logo, while a different person in said snazzy polo shirt came here, people might see things differently.

    Just look at those snazzy button up shirts (nothing against outside care at all- people who do this as a job ROCK)

    As it is we are two stay at home parents ( to most)

    To some : I’m not doing brilliantly, he’s my Carer but – so?

     To very few we are both coping – Big M with a 18/7 job and I with being a full time Mum with PTSD, ANA, GAD and BPD (plus even more abbreviations irrelivant to this post).

    These people are few and far between (And much appreciated)

    On a bad day Big M isn’t even one of them.

    On a bad day caring for me isn’t a job or responsibility – it’s a hinderence.

    On a very bad day I offer to get in another Carer or leave so he can manage others expectations and his wants and I can look after what bub and I need.

    It’s been a very bad week.

    Because in my mind- and in  some others I’m meant to just cope when this bugger of a disease interferes withmy plans and thus their plans either for me, Big M or my children.

    I’m fairly sure no one would tell an obstetrician they should have skipped the birth of one of their patients because it meant they and their partner who had to stay home for the kids missed a dinner party.

    I can imagine the conversation:

    “But couldn’t you have just ignored your pager? I checked you were coming three days ago and you said yes!. Surely you could just have just ignored her? And I can’t believe Matt didn’t turn up- toddlers are okay on their own”

     Ok – appalling example but thats because there isn’t one that matches.

    There is nothing quite like the hell of being told what you can and cannot do by experiences you lived half a life ago that won’t leave you alone.

    The irony of a disorder that makes you desperate for contact with people but then finding it impossible to cope with.

    And then that people resent you for needing the supports you have put in place – it’s like that thing in primary school where everyone wanted a go on the crutches when someone sprained their ankle. Except no one gives them back when the bell rings.

    I just wish everybody knew I’m doing the best that I can but that my absolute best will always always be reserved for my youngest, then the rest of my little lot.

    I wish they could be understanding. Hell, I just wish they were okay with it.

    And to anyone out there going through this- one person gets it. Just one voice but (trust me) better than none.

    Which is why if nothing else came out of this week at least I found pins like this one :

    And this one:

     And this one

    which led to this post.
     So there, task complete.

    Read on for some helpful info :

     

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    Week Seven PART TWO(finally)

    Here is the promised part two of post about this  pin.

     

     I hope I didn’t lose too many of you with the incredibly convoluted sundae analogy? Good. Thought not. So anyway…

    Bub ended up getting the full blown reaction temperature/not sleeping/snuffle. Blah. 

    It meant that for three nights we had a total if maybe six hours sleep?. Urgh. 

    But I kept up with the new things that have become part of our routine and they may have helped us through – at least a little bit.

    Where did I leave you last time?  Ah yes

    RELAXATION CORNER

    Babies really benefit from a ‘relaxation corner’ in their room, ideally visited before naps to help calm them before sleep. The focal point of a relaxation corner is a light feature. Bubble tubes are ideal, but a simple lava lamp will also be effective. “
    Ok. So I still haven’t gotten that together. 

    Mainly I think because I have a very fixed idea of what it will be (draped tipi over floor cushion with lantern ).

     In the meantime bub has fallen in love with her “paddle pool” and also loves “massage blanket” so it’s almost as though she’s establishing the relaxing and safe space for herself. 

    Ok- for example- bub hits me in the face- as toddlers do, flailing randomly is part of their modus operandi. 

    This leads to a very loud and sudden “Ow ****” 

    (Not something to say near  a toddler but I have a fairly new nose piercing so serious pain involved. Usually when swearing is needed – stubbed toe etc- I’m a little more creative- “Oh blogger” is always good)

    Anyway- flail leads to a leads to sudden loud noise from Mum which is actually very unusal and bub thinks she did a very bad thing or just simply gets scared. 

    When she was littler this would mean breast feed;  then she progressed to asking for a ‘walk’ or ‘cooking’ (favourite things) all while sobbing  (poor bub)

    This time her automatic response was “paddle pool?” 

    So her paddling pool is her safe and happy place. 

    (Maybe I’ll just hang the curtains over one end of that and stuff it with pillows…either way. It’ll warrant a post all its own. Pins are bound to be used)

    So- massage blanket. 

    Baby Massage hasn’t been something that I ever saw myself doing.  Eldest loathed it and with Middlest it wasn’t exactly ‘en vogue’ so no one really mentioned it.

    With bub it was a small part of the pre birth classes.

     I didn’t really think about it much, truth be told. I always thought keeping a very small baby naked (which all of mine seemed to hate) after a bath (which all of mine seemed to hate) didn’t seem quite fair.

    Eldest had colic so we did the routine circular tummy rubbing and bicycles.

    Bub had reflux and colic (still does a little) tummy rubbing & bicycles became an ordinary activity.

    It was when I was looking at videos and pins for infant massage (If anyone finds a good one for “toddler massage” please tell me- that I realised I’d been doing a lot of the things they were suggesting and demonstrating already.

    A foot rub and head massage every night as she feeds to sleep. Head rub if she stirs (yes. I do sleep. Yes. I love it. Yes. My baby goes to sleep in my lap. No. I’m not a “political co-sleeper”* No. I don’t feel the need to stop. My eldest two left my bed by two. I can’t see bub doing that. I’m not fussed.)

    So yes, foot rub and head massage, tummy rub if she has wind, legs if she’d particularly restless.

    But I didn’t do anything structured.

    The article said

    The benefits of massage for babies are well documented and can include improved sleep, bonding and reduced periods of crying. Infant massage classes are a great way to learn but there are also some high quality videos on YouTube for those who want to get started right away.  Baby massage is easy to fit into your daily routine and works particularly well after a warm bath.”



    So it’s a very good thing.

     I thought, from watching all the videos and reading all the articles (which I did with bub snuggled on my lap watching the “bubbies” at 8am one wintery morning but- more on that later ) that I should make it part of “bedtime”.

    Bub has a fairly fixed dinner/bath/bed routine because otherwise getting her to sleep is not easy. 

    It moves in time ; between 5.30-6.30 start- bed has to happen by 7.30 or else she just won’t sleep until at least 9.

    Adding anything else in there seemed too much for now so I put it first. 

    I wanted it to be special so I used one of my Ishka throws (ah- how I love Ishka and how I hate the term ‘throw’ can we go back to blanket please?)

    It goes something like this- At about 4.30 – 5  I  (or bub recently) say ‘massage?’ and then bub says ‘massage blanket?” and we grab that and put it on the bed. I don’t undress her.

     We either talk – at first there was a lot about oil and how often you need it and if you are ‘cleaning’ your hands with it that isn’t more often that ten minutes, could you put the cap on please?, Panda isoily enough maybe massage him now, would you like me to do your back? Can I have more oil please? Yes you can have more but just two dots, see- dot dot. No you don’t need more. Do pandas feet. “ to more recently massaging all of her toys in turn. 

    I made the mistake of watching some baby massage videos while massaging. Or trying to. Bub likes pressing buttons. Loves looking at babies. And that’s how we ended up here (which is amazing)  here and here (Also at birth videos- why on YouTube? Why? Not the “teach how a baby arrives” kind the “dad and phone” kind. ) and why now ‘massage blanket’ is often closely followed by “bubbies?”

     So sometimes we’ll watch other babies massages and talk about them.

    I’m also kind of all for mindfulness and love the fact that it works. I had the worst pre natal anxiety- Smiling Mind made it liveable – well I got through it – and those ten minutes of calm a day definitely helped, as did the breathing in labour, believe it or not.

    Recently – thanks to Emma Watson actually – I found Headspace  (Mindfulness exercises, not the counselling/GP service for ‘young adults’)

    I love it and would totally recommend it to anyone anxious or stressed. 

    I love the way it’s run, I love the packages of exercises, I love they have an SOS button for when you are falling apart.

     I love how tailored you can make it. 

    I especially like the fact that there are exercises for kids- toddlers even. 

    I love that I wrote to them and asked if I could access the toddler activities to see if they worked for bub on my free trial and they unlocked all of them for me- without me asking. 

    Most importantly I love Andy’s voice. 

    That is actually vital.

     You can’t do anything meditationy or mindfullnessy if you don’t like the voice or the whale song is driving you mad or the water noise makes you want to wee.
    “Mindfulness for toddlers?!” I hear you cry “how can this possibly work? They won’t understand! They won’t stay still! It’s a farce!” 

    My experience is at the end of this post – bub likes it & I do too.

    Best people to explain it are Headspace themselves (here)

    Also she asks to listen.

     That means she likes it and that is a great thing.
    So anyway – while we talk/ watch/ listen I rub her legs and feet and often her back in a semi confident “of course I know what I’m doing rubbing coconut oil and lavender my child- watch me masseuse” type fashion. 

    A photo of a photo- it’s “post modern ” 😉

    (I must get some nice baby moisturiser that is enviro / world friendly – hints anyone? Using foodstuffs just feels odd).

    She loves it and I think it calms her a little. A lot less food is thrown at dinner.

    I love it too.

    FAMILY CUDDLE TIME

    Taking time to lie on a bed or the couch and quietly talk, stroke and cuddle your baby together for just a few minutes a day can help you to reconnect and develop as a family. “

    This one was easy when I thought about it. 

    Every morning after bub wakes up she curls up in a seat made of my tummy as the backrest and a pillow as the base. As I’m not quite ready to get up at still dark o’clock she will feed and doze then move onto feeding and watching Bollywood clips on Instagram or cats or miniature horses or ballet. Mainly Bollywood as I wake up. She’ll also quietly play with one or two of her soft toys- pretend picnics are popular.

     In between all of this are snack feeds and throughout it all I  have my hand on her back or am playing with her hair.

    I also haven’t been able to fall asleep without one hand touching her from the moment she was born (that made hospital fun)

    Unless I’m misreading it- there is family cuddle time. Oh plus all the cooking/walking in a sling. But that might be more outdoor play…


    QUIET PLAY

    Quiet play is a great way of relaxing baby before bedtime. Many parents recognize the value of a night time routine, but extending it a little further and incorporating some relaxing play can help your baby look forward to bedtime and sleep for longer. Begin by dimming lights, turning off any screens and keeping talking to a minimum. Some popular ideas are playing with lights such as fairy lights and small torches, bubbles, making shadow puppet shapes on the wall and slowly singing a favorite nursery rhyme or lullaby.”

    This one was already in place before I started with this pin. 

    From birth at night we’ve had lights dimmed , special lullabies and stories.( I can’t manage the no screen though (PTSD/Anxiety etc I need distracting) so screen is small and silent (love subtitles) & only on when bub is going to sleep.)

    Currently her bedtime routine is massage time, candle & story time, dinner and song time- anything from Bic Runga to Teddy Bears Picnic, bath or shower with mum, PJs while musical star plays (As soon as star goes on no more grown up conversations), her lamp on, story with M while I finish getting set up to feed/hold bub for 4 hours or so, feed (sometimes feeeeeeeeeeed) and sleep. 

    Quiet play – Sorted before I even knew it was helping!

    Bubs lamp- another Ishka purchase

    (Recently bub has started watching the screen more- while not worried I am wary when she asks for “candle show?” (watching an Indian historical drama series- many candles) on the plus side maybe she’s learning Hindi or how to read already…or maybe not. I don’t think it’s any worse than those Fisher Price lenticular light shows that were around when I was small but just in case were switching from laptop to tablet.)
    So there we are. 

    Is bub more relaxed? Sometimes.

    More calm? Sometimes. 

    But life has also during the time I was doing this given her a lot to deal with- massively stressed parents, upset mum, unwell siblings and several arguments – not to mention immunizations. 

    So I’m going to keep trying it all because I like it. 

    I like knowing I’m helping and making her world better and bigger and if nothing else giving her the chance to make jokes and see babies massaged in India.
    I’ll update you when I write my post on making her “relaxation corner” (is it just me, or is “relaxation corner” starting to sound a bit like those 70s ish ultra hippy but want to be living in the 60s not now and took a very wrong turn  parents (i.e. Ben Lee’s parents in ‘The Rage in Placid Lake? – love that movie) would use as a ‘naughty step? Or does the word pod need to be incorporated for that?)

    Here’s some bits I moved from earlier about how headspace works with bub & political vegetarianism. I do go on sometimes!

    Headspace for Toddlers

    All I know is- and I’ve got no idea if it’s working in a mindful therapy way- but if we listen to Andy – be it the duck one (calm), the icy pole one (kindness), or even the glasses one (focus) and talk about them as they run for their one minute that bub will ask for more. 

    Also she remembers things from them and talks about them. 

    She very seriously told me “Bears in big bath” during dinner a few nights ago “eating bubbles” was the punchline and caused much laughter. 

    The “focus” meditation uses frogs & a stream- the first time we did it I realised I wasn’t sure that she could imagine a frog or a stream so I talked about what if they were teddy bears and for stream – water. 

    Bub added the big bath & eating bubbles (something that I spend quite a bit of bathtime trying to get her not to do) 

    Also the ‘kindness’ exercise asks them to imagine someone they love and giving them something they really want. 

    As we did this I suggested “Daddy” & “ Coffee and a big hug”.

     Next morning when Daddy went to get coffee, bub cried ‘Big Hug!’ & leapt at him.
    So something is working somewhere there.

    *in the same way I’m not a political vegetarian – I’m vegetarian for various reasons but I don’t feel the need to make you vegetarian. . Eat or don’t. It affects me not. I’d  rather you didn’t try to convince me to eat meat though. Try replacing vegetarian with co-sleeps and eat too and you’ll have a poorly constructed sentence that hopefully explains my position.

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    Week 5 – Part One

    This (as promised) is not about sewing OR cooking. I know. Amazing. (Although I have done both of those in the last week and totally recommend that if you want oh-so-yummy pancakes go *here* if you want to make something unexpected that your baby will devour go *here* and if you want to make a top you totally and utterly loathe into the cutest little dress and headband for your bub go, well,  there and there)

    So. I might have mentioned in the last post, possibly even the one before that life hasn’t exactly been simple for me of late. Imagine a sundae if you will- the ice cream is the general state of being- I’m not well. (For those into labels I have PTSD, Genralised Anxiety Disorder, Post Natal anxiety, Specific phobias including illness, Agoraphobia & Borderline traits.) In addition to the mind stuff I have IBS, Chronic Fatigue and a rubbish immune system. So yeah. There’s that. The topping would be two teenagers with various mental illnesses of their own which lead to *school* being a huge issue instead of a normal everyday activity & living on a stupid income that I am enormously greatful for but think the government forgot to adjust at some point (like the 90s) (NB to avoid the wrong idea being given – when I say enormously greatful, I mean it. I am so lucky to be living in a country that is generous enough to support me when I cannot support myself. I am so lucky to have received this support when there are now so many in my situation who won’t. It just makes life a little more difficult living on such a fixed and comparatively low income)

    So- still with me- ice cream sundae? Yup. Cool.

    Add to the topping the crushed nuts of my parents (many issues there) & my ED coming back. On top of that pour the 100s and 1000s of day to day problems (eldest going interstate, bills we forgot, immunizations for bub etc.) and you get –  my life. In sundae form.

     Then you take the spoon and stir. A lot. To “make it soft serve” Which is what I always used to do when I ate such things.

     What you end up with is a grubby looking pile of mess in a pretty glass with far too many melty bits and unexpected crunches.

    (It does taste good though- should have maybe gone with a different metaphor…)

    Anyway 

    Life being like that leads to a stressed mum. Which leads to a stressed bub. Who is changing in a not good way- disturbed sleep, more crying & very wound up.

    So back in time a month and a bit  when I found this pin : 

    Which I will be ever greatful for. I know my bub isn’t this small but I read the post and thought that the ideas just might help & couldn’t hurt.

     Its written by Hannah, a child therapist from the UK , whose blog I really wish I known about before now. 

    Thank you Hannah. You rock.

    The suggestions included Candle Time, a Relaxation Corner, Outdoor Relaxation, Family Cuddle time and Baby Massage.

    Candle Time

    Now my first thought was baby + candle = Er- Nup. Yeah? 

    Turns out it’s manageable.

    What the blog suggested :

    Light a candle and put on some relaxing music, then sit with your baby quietly and watch the flame together. “

    What I did was light a tea light and put it in a glass. Last thing pre dinner/bath/bed bub & I looked at the candle for a while then I read her a story.  

    At first it went something like:

    “Look at the flame- isn’t it pretty- orange and blue”

    “……”

    “No you can’t hold it hon, it’s not safe. Isn’t it pretty though- let’s put it on the…”

    “…..” 

    “No, I can’t put it down on the bed- no don’t look in the top that’s hot- owch- you’ll hurt yourself…lets put it on the table”

    LUNGE

    “No hon- you CAN’T touch it…lets read Hairy Maclary now, ok?”

    (I’m not even going to try to transcribe bub. Anyone who has met a just speaking child will know writing can never do them justice)

    Then we discovered lanterns at winter solstice. That seemed to be a turning point. No more lunging. Still wanting to touch and hold and kiss candle but far more time spent watching the flame and then the lantern when the paper was wrapped back around the glass.

    Since solstice we’ve had paper snowflake lanterns and the last two nights the ‘invisible cat’ lantern. Bub currently has an invisible cat living with us so I took the Diwali lantern idea (two posts back) and turned it into a cat we can only see at night.

    Result:

     I don’t know if the candle itself has  helped her relax yet- but I’m not following the guidelines letter for letter- it’s certainly given bub several beautiful new experiences she wouldn’t otherwise have had and given her a pre-dinner settling ritual. 

    There is definately more eating and less food flinging going on than before I started. Plus I love the one on one cosy candlelight book time. 

    Relaxation Corner
    The blog suggested

    ” Babies really benefit from a ‘relaxation corner’ in their room, ideally visited before naps to help calm them before sleep. The focal point of a relaxation corner is a light feature. Bubble tubes are ideal, but a simple lava lamp will also be effective. Focus on making your relaxation corner as multi-sensory as possible. Include anything that calms your baby such as a basket of story books, soft fabrics and a diffuser that will disperse the smell of organic essential oils, such as lavender or chamomile. “

    Yep. I’ll get back to you on that one. I’ve looked at many pins about making a tipi tent thing and many about making a lava lamp. I have developed a desire to make a spinning lantern. I just haven’t had the impetus, the time or the money to do it. I did however FINALLY get bubs’ paddling pool up so she has a safe, soft, small dog free place of her own to play and wander and get mum to make snowflakes and lick the floor if she wants without me then totally freaking out. She loves it. 

    I also found calming glitter bottles. 

    They are part if this new (is it new? I’ve been out if the game 14 years) sensory toys idea. 

    I love them. Very simple to make and can be very pretty. I also adore the idea of using them as a “time out” when bub gets bigger. Feeling grumpy? Go shake a bottle if water and glitter glue and once all the glitter has settled you can come back a calmer, distracted child. (I wonder if we’ll make it to 1.5 litres…) 

    We’ve made three. Two tiny travel size and one 600ml. The 600ml has been most affective at calming bub during wakeful nights, the travel size were the most fun & interactive. Bub learnt a new word “shake” & used it freely. 

    So no relaxation corner just yet. Soon though. Promise.

    However because of pins that the idea led me to I’d have to say it has definately helped Bub calm & relax

    Outdoor Relaxation 

    The blog suggested

    Give your baby some time in nature as frequently as you can. Go to the park, a field, woodlands or sit in the garden and let them crawl around.”



    Last year we were living in the Dandenong Ranges. Walks became a regular morning activity with bub in a sling off we’d go. But we had no garden (Don’t ask)

    Now we are in slightly-more-suburban East Geelong. I tried to keep up the walking and for a while it was Torquay beach twice a week and East Geelong cemetary on the days in between (really not as morbid as it sounds). That slowly stopped as first I got sick, then it got wintery.

    We have a garden. Unfortunately the back garden is a bit of a mire or an ant hill (depending on the temperature) so that leaves the front which has a ‘fence” so low I could hurdle it. But we’ve had some nice feeling-like-everyone-is-watching picnics. 

    On days when we don’t go outside there is a definite change. I don’t know if it comes from bub or me but just ten minutes of walking up and down the driveway, looking for the moon or visiting our potted plants seems to help.

    The whole ‘touch anything’ thing. That is challenging. Really challenging. But when bub checks if the plants need water now I’m not rushing in with a Wet One.

    Result

    Yes. It makes a difference. It’s sometimes so hard though and at the moment it’s one of the last things I want to do. I miss the space in the Dandenongs. It felt easier there. It also felt like bub got more out of it. We need somewhere like that here. Also a taller fence. (Watching bub voluntarily hug our ‘seasons tree’ in the cemetary is something I’m not going to forget. Nor is the fact she’s befriended a grave statue. Beautiful bub)

    …..leaving it there for now, I’ve rambled too much,  if I’m getting tired, you must be too- tomorrow part two….

    anxiety, baby and toddler, bad week, Nightie, pintrest, ptsd, repurpose, Sewing, sewing novice, sock monkey, toys, upcycle, winter

     Fourth Week – hmmm

    Wow. Okay. I’ve made it to my fourth week.

    I’m quietly a little bit happy with myself.

    So, life has been a bit, well un-brilliant since my last post. Very messy and torrid and stressful and tortured with past issues like my ED creeping back (in a totally nasty ‘it’s behind you’ kind of way). As well as this there’s been parent-y stuff going on and I mean, god, you’d think by thirty – mumph I’d be over parent issues but nup…still doing the same old routine .
    Anyway- 

    one thing I have learnt so far with this experiment is that I quite like sewing. 

    Especially for bub. 

    Although I miss the time with her.

    I’m still very much a beginner so each project takes probably at least twice as long as it should and I make mistakes. 

    Loads of them. 

    That is why I wrote about not one but two pin activities this week. 

    Because if anyone else out there is like me I want them to know the mistakes are ok. It works out….or maybe just don’t make the same ones I did.

     I’m going to call this ‘The Bedtime Set’ Because it feels like it needs some tenuous connection other than ‘I sewed them both’

    My middlest child wanted a sock monkey for  years and we could never find one or when we did we couldnt afford one (at the time Frank was really the only brand in Australia making them) so when I  found about twenty pins for DIY sock monkeys I knew I had to make one (there are also so many other sock animals- after middlest saw the monkey I now owe him a sloth. Or a dachund. Or an elephant).

    I went with this pin because it seemed easy and beginner friendly. It probably would have been if this beginner had actual fabric scissors and a pencil or chopstick for the turning-narrow-things-in-the-right-way bit. A bamboo skewer just doesn’t cut it. Nor do the kids old school scissors  (ba-doom-ch?).

    So I marked, and sewed, and hacked and then realised I didn’t have to cut both layers of sock together- so that helped.

    Then I spent twenty minutes trying to turn it’s arm in the right way. I gave up. Turned everything except that arm and the far too thin tail inside in and then just unpicked the disobliging limbs and sewed them up on the outside. Bub isn’t two yet. She doesn’t care.

    Then I used the template from the tutorial to cut a monkey face and eyes from some left over tshirt fabric. Stuffed and sewed and stuffed and sewed as bub bedtime hurtled at me until we had a monkey. 

    A bit Frankensteins monstery but definitely a monkey. 

    Handstitched his mouth (thank you years of embroidery and especially my grade 6 teacher Mrs Scott).

    Bub loves him and he hasn’t fallen apart yet. I’m impressed and he is wonky in a loveable and totally fits in with the rest of us way.

    I’d wanted to make bub a flanelette nightie for weeks. It’s been freezing in Geelong (-2 last night) & a thin onesie just isn’t enough for my little blanket kicker off-er-er. 

     I finally asked eldest to pick up some flanelette and elastic from Lincraft,  and bub was happy playing in the clean washing mountain so I thought I’d give it a go.

     

    This pinned tutorial is easy. Really. Just if you haven’t sewn clothes before- be careful.

    Something went a bit awry and I cut out the pattern backwards I think…either way I had to cut the front and back pieces in half and sew them up the middle.

    NB with sewing always look at the shape of things in photos instead of assuming a curve means neckline.

    After that it came together well. There was an instruction about sewing elastic onto the sleeves that I couldn’t work out- so I just made a pocket and threaded some through.

    One thing I am going to add is a couple of press studs above the hem in the middle so that bub doesn’t end up with that ‘nightie twisted around you, is trying to strangle you and has exposed 80% of your body’ thing. If they don’t work I might use press studs on a pair of leggings and the nightie…or I could make flannel pants…hmmm.

    (Also, always double fold hems. I washed the nightie pre wear and I had to re hem it due to fraying. Lesson learned. )

    Bub tried it on this morning and didn’t want to take it off. 

    Yay.

    Happy Mum.

    Also it is huge so -longer life- Yay!

    There. A cuddly toy and a nighty. Bedtime set.

    The practice with these meant that I felt confident enough to take last winters pjs – two size 0 thick weight onesies by pumpkin patch and sew them into one bigger bub sized onesie- it’s actually kind of cute. Plus warm and comfy. Bonus- it was my idea. Not a Pin in sight. (If you wanted to pin it though that’d be kind of cool :))

     

    Have a happy and warm week everyone.

    P.S. I’ve got a couple of pin based long term projects coming along- one for next week that might be especially good for parents of little ones, one for bigger kids. Nothing to do with sewing. Or cooking. Well not much.